By society’s standards, I’m behind.
By my own standards, I’ve never felt more at peace.

I once thought peace would arrive if I just ticked all the boxes. Most of us were taught what the boxes should be, but not how to discern if we’re choosing the right ones for us.

When you’ve spent a lifetime keeping everyone else happy, having needs of your own can feel dangerous.

Many of my clients — and I — share this experience. We entered adulthood with a deeply ingrained habit of putting everyone else’s needs before our own.