Afraid of Your Emotions? What If They Were Never the Problem
For so many years, I did 𝘢𝘭𝘭 the things.
Meditation, therapy, biohacks, wellness protocols—thinking that if I just found the right tool, I’d stop feeling like something was wrong with me.
That maybe one day, I’d stop being so sensitive.
So easily overwhelmed.
So challenged by speaking my mind, when others seemed to do so effortlessly.
What changed everything?
Realising the challenge was that I was trying so hard not to be human.
Why So Many of Us Are Afraid of Our Emotions
In a culture that celebrates positivity, productivity, and independence, it’s easy to internalise the belief that certain feelings mean something’s wrong with us.
That we should move on, bounce back, or “𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘨𝘰” faster than we actually can.
What makes an experience feel harder isn’t the emotion itself, it’s the story we’ve learned to tell ourselves about it.
It’s Not the Feeling — It’s the Story We Tell About It
That story can sound like:
"𝘐 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘸."
"𝘖𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥."
"𝘔𝘢𝘺𝘣𝘦 𝘐’𝘮 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩."
"𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴?"
"𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘶𝘭𝘵."
"𝘐 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳."
What if your thoughts and feelings were never the problem?
How Somatic Coaching Helps You Feel Your Emotions Safely
What if the real shift came when you stopped trying to be less human and started allowing yourself to be fully expressed?
That’s what my clients speak to again and again. That through the course of our work together, they go from feeling disconnected from their emotions, to feeling as though they can allow themselves to feel their emotions without shame. That they can stay with an emotion without feeling overwhelmed or flooded.
This is what happens when they’re gently and skilfully met in the truth of their experience, without being fixed, or analysed. When their body is allowed to express what it’s read to express, without being rushed.
They share that it feels like a light being switched on.
A warm hug.
A homecoming.
I currently have two spaces open for new 1:1 somatic coaching clients.
If you’ve been seeking greater peace or clarity, it starts to flow when you’re supported to stop judging yourself for being human.
You’re not too much.
You’re not too sensitive.
You’re not “moody”.
You’re just human.
And being human is allowed here.
Book your first session here or get in touch to arrange a get to know each other call.
Love,
Caroline
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