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How to Feel Safe in Your Body: Why Receiving Support Feels Hard (and How to Change It)
For some, the act of asking for and receiving support is deeply charged. Weโll work with this somatically over time for many sessions.
For others, receiving support is familiar - but deepening into new kinds of support becomes nourishing and stabilising.
The truth is, we are biologically wired to receive support โ from ourselves, from others, from our ancestors, and from the natural world.
Afraid of Your Emotions? What If They Were Never the Problem
In a culture that celebrates positivity, productivity, and independence, itโs easy to internalise the belief that certain feelings mean somethingโs wrong with us. โฃ
That we should move on, bounce back, or โ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ช๐ต ๐จ๐ฐโ faster than we actually can.โฃ
How somatics helps us live with more purpose
As a somatic coach, I don't just support my clients to "heal" from the emotional and nervous system impact of past experiences. YesโI support you and your body to digest and metabolise the residue of past experiences. ANDโa huge focus of somatic coaching is reconnecting with your most instinctive ways of being.
My self acceptance story
I had been trying for YEARS to resolve my self-doubting, self-criticising tendencies at the level of the mind. Through talk therapy, a degree in psychology, post-graduate study in psychotherapy, thousands of hours of meditation, affirmations, attempting to "manage" (control) my thoughts.
What I didn't know, is that thought patterns and beliefs are held in place in the bodyโby somatic residue from past experiences and by nervous system patterns.
3 things youโre probably doing if youโre deeply feeling
If youโve ever thought, โWhy canโt I just get it together?" or felt like something was wrong with you for feeling so much, let me tell you: youโre not alone. Many of us deep feelers carry the belief that weโre flawed because we feel so different to the people around us.โฃ
But hereโs the truth: you make perfect sense.โฃ
These experiences aren't flaws, they're a reflection of your deeply feeling nature.โฃ
The Healing Merry-go-round
Until we land in the knowing that every single part of us makes perfect sense & every feeling, reaction & limiting belief holds wisdom for us to integrateโweโll never get off the healing merry-go-round. โฃ
The Elephant in the Wellness Room
When we're living with an ongoing incongruence, misalignment or inner conflict, all the wellness practices in the world can't help us.