If rest leaves you feeling tense, guilty or still switched on, there’s nothing wrong with you. Your body is responding to old patterns of safety and belonging. Here’s why rest doesn’t feel restful, and how your system can learn to access truly restful rest.

For some of us, people-pleasing a phrase that’s loaded with shame, self-criticism, resentment or confusion. 

For others, thinking about people-pleasing evokes thoughts like:

“Why am I like this?”

“Why does setting boundaries feel so impossible for me?”

or maybe even

“I like pleasing others, I have no problem with it.”